How important is it to have a secure strong bond between parents and children? Bonding with your child is the most valued gift you can give them. Optimistic attention communicates to your child that they are valuable. This may be as simple as a smile, an encouraging word, or sitting down and playing their favorite game with them. Spending time with your child shows them they are loved and endorses their self-confidence. Having a sense of joining with their parents, will help to encourage their sense of belonging and build a positive individuality and sense of self. Children who are securely attached when they are infants develop high self-esteem and self-reliance as they grow. Studies on attachment show that these children are more independent, perform better in school, have efficacious social relationships, and experience less unhappiness and nervousness later in their life.